June 10, 2018

One of the core beliefs I’ve experienced growing up is this deep feeling of ‘not feeling good enough’. It sabotaged me in so many ways and it made me feel that whatever I do, it’s not enough. I’m not enough.

I needed to be willing to look back on the early years of my life to understand where did this belief come? Was there a particular moment or birthplace where I began to feel that ‘I am not enough’?  In many ways, this has become both a personal and professional journey because the belief of ‘not feeling good enough’ shows up with so many people that attend my workshops. Almost everyone can relate to it on one level or another and it’s often whats driving us at the very core; we will do anything not to feel the pain of ‘not being enough’. Even though this is simply outright now true, how can one not be good enough? And yet, we have this belief entrenched in our psyche and we compensate for it in so many different ways.

However, I am better equipped now to not fall down the slippery slop of unworthiness and to catch my fall. This is important because we’re so outer dependant on peoples approval; one sentence can send you down the hole of negative self-belief. However, when we have the knowledge and tools at how to catch ourselves before this happens, we become inner-dependant and a deeper sense of self-worthiness begins.

When I designed the Self:Worthy workshop, I did it for myself and everyone else who struggles with this core issue around worthiness and lack of self-confidence which is so pervasive. We look at the barriers of what prevents us from feeling truly worthy of love, and from having a healthy relationship with ourselves.

The outcome has been extraordinary. People leave with a deep sense of, ‘I have what it takes’ and ‘I am enough’.  It takes the pressure off around the belief, I have to be more, or, I have to effort more, or do more in order to be loved. When I started discovering this inside myself it gave me permission to show up and come out of hiding.